Your of importance has to separate your ego and true and positive reality from thinkings or attachment to other. ‘Fear is part of attachment’,” declared Hare Krishna how to go forward. So, keep distance from attachment to Other’s idea of true love & big event; you both may stand as true reflection of what one wants and truly is, And take charge of having your own turn. People are what they ‘see,’ They still let you come up for us? After so many game playing drama, treat people as you want to be treated? Not idealistic approach!